22 Guaranteed Ways To Destroy A Relationship

2007-10-29T17:55:00.000-05:00

22 Guaranteed Ways To Destroy A Relationship
Relationships are often hard to maintain, even when two people profess undying love for each other. A major problem in a relationship is that one or both partners continue to make the same errors but then cannot understand why the relationship is in trouble. It is almost as though they are determined to do things their way, even at the risk of damaging a good thing.

Which of the following errors are you making?

1. Rigidly maintain that you are always right, even when you do not have all the facts!
2. Never apologize, even when you are proven wrong beyond a shadow of a doubt!
3. Be relentless in rubbing it in when you are proven right!
4. Dogmatically maintain that you know your partner's motives better than he or she does!
5. Assume that your partner should understand your needs and should respond immediately without being asked!
6. Totally ignore your partner's priorities and insist on your own!
7. Operate on the assumption that your partner's sexual need cycle is identical to yours!
8. Add deep psychological meaning to your partner's sexual disinterest, and take it very personally!
9. Do not ever admit hurt, but go immediately to the expression of anger!
10. Identify your partner's character flaws and family secrets and use them to make a point when logic fails!
11. Use guilt to manipulate, to get your own way or to punish!
12. Become proficient at catching your partner being bad, but do not ever comment if you catch him or her being good!
13. Cut no slack, yield no ground and push your argument until your partner walks out the door... then follow the coward!
14. Do not let go of the past, rehashing your version of it as often as possible!
15. Cling very very tightly, claiming that you will surly die if you are ignored!
16. If you are not a clinger, then stay emotionally/physically distant, and show no signs that you really care for your partner!
17. Make promises, but never keep them!
18. Be factious so you partner never knows when you are being serious!
19. Always make excuses for your bad habits!
20. Insist that what you have to say is always more important that what your partner is saying, so interrupt!
21. Pretend that you understand what you partner has said, even if you have no idea of the point that was being made!
22. Act as though you do none of the above and it is your partner who must make all the changes!

originaly posted on enotalone.com

Real Answers for Real Relationships

2007-10-26T14:04:00.000-05:00

Reality Check - RELATIONSHIPS ARE HARD!

Not that we've got that out of they way . . . let's try to make them not so hard.

What is a relationship? Webster's Dictionary defined a relationship as

I define it as how two people act towards, feel, think, and speak to each other. Or if you're a math person:
Person 1 x Person 2 = a relationship

Simple right? Then what makes relationships so hard. The answer is simple - YOU.

No, you are not always the problem (you already knew that right?) but you, me, them, us, we are the problem because we are people. People are imperfect and flawed (yes, even you). Here is some math for you again:
flawed person 1 x flawed person 2 = flawed squared (a.k.a flawed relationship = hard)

The solutions comes from acknowledging and recognizing our flaws, knowing other's limitations and learning how to deal and operate with in those limits.

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22 Guaranteed Ways To Destroy A Relationship

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